I’ve been eating a lot of fries lately. You could say it’s because I’m a pig (and yes that’s probably true), but there’s actually a deeper reason behind it. I’ve been feeling a little down these past few days, and I had this awesome idea that stuffing fries in my mouth would make everything better. That it would make me feel less alone. Less sad. Less stressed. Sounds absurd when I put it that way, but I know I’m not the first person that’s turned to food for some comfort. I’m sure there are times when we find ourselves eating a lot more for no good reason, hoping that food would fill up an emptiness that we have inside.

Does it ever work?

Momentarily, I would say. For those few minutes that I’m eating fries, I do feel a little happier. But that’s how long it lasts – a few minutes. Then I’m back to feeling like crap. Even worse, now I also feel fat.

We do the same with men too, if you think about it. We let a man into our lives, in hopes that he’ll make the emptiness go away. That he’ll make us happy and that we won’t have to feel alone anymore. And it works for a little while, until the sadness and loneliness strikes again all of a sudden. So we get rid of this man, because apparently he’s not doing a good job of making us happy. And we go through series of men, in an attempt to fill our empty cup. What we find, however, is not only is our cup still empty, but there’s a deeper hole inside us each time.

Waiting for a man to come rescue us and make our sadness magically disappear is like waiting for an order of fries to solve all our problems. It’s never going to happen.

Because the reality is, no man can ever fill up your empty cup. The only person who can, is YOU.

You, and you alone, are responsible for your own happiness. If you are not happy with yourself, no one, and I mean no one, can ever make you happy. No amount of fries or men will ever make you feel whole. This is something you have to take into your own hands.

So here’s your homework starting from now : Find out what happiness is for you. Go out there and do things. Take a course. Meet new people. Travel. Read. Write. Draw. Paint. Cook. Dance. Sing. Run. Whatever it is. Don’t stop until you find that thing that makes you happy.

And when you’re happy with yourself, that’s when you’ll be able to find a man who makes you even happier.

#Fry-tip : Ever wonder why fries make such good comfort food? http://healthland.time.com/2011/04/07/why-french-fries-are-good-comfort-food/