“All of men’s troubles stem from his inability to sit quietly alone in a room” – Blaise Pascal
A couple of years ago, I loved eating plain old salted fries. With no ketchup or sauce whatsoever. Then it got a little boring, so I started to have fries with tomato ketchup. I enjoyed it for a while, until I got bored again. So I switched to fries with mayonnaise. Mmmm. They were delicious. But then, guess what, that got boring too. Then I got hooked on cheesy fries. Yummm! And two minutes later, I was bored and searching for more interesting ways to enjoy my fries.
Okay all this talk about fries is making my mouth water. Let’s get to the point, shall we?
“What’s wrong with me?”, I recently asked S, my good friend & mentor. My latest dating experience has been the most dramatic one yet, and as I recalled other bad choices I made, I really couldn’t help but wonder what’s wrong with me. I just have this knack to dip my feet into a pool of trouble every single time!
“You get bored with one way of things and so you seek to get out of that status quo,” he informs me, “You are always looking for ways to not get bored.” Hmmm..I give it a thought, and come to a harsh realization that my friend is right. I hate being bored. It’s just so… Boring!
So it seems, in order to not ever be bored, I’ve taken a similar approach with men that I’ve done with fries. All my past relationships have been everything but boring. I dated a control freak, jumped to a narcissist, switched to a manipulator, and cartwheeled to a sociopath. I basically went through all the trouble to avoid normal, so that I would never be bored.
But why, you ask, why would someone go through such great extents to keep themselves entertained? This is a tough question to answer, but I guess some of us are always looking for some kind of stimulation. Maybe we feel like something is missing? Or we feel like we’re stuck in a rut? Or maybe we watch too many movies and imagine that our lives should be like that. I don’t know, to be honest.
I do know from experience that, contrary to what you’ve read in 50 Shades Of Grey and the likes, getting into twisted, troubled, dramatic relationships won’t make you feel any better about your life. I mean, sure, you won’t be bored. But you will be torn, broken, devastated, confused, depressed, and a roller coaster of other emotions that can’t even be described. Are all these emotions really worth it, just to keep yourself entertained?
I’ve recently decided that I might try and lay off “entertainment” for a while and go back to plain old salty fries. My life as of lately consists of work, laundry, writing, mindless TV, long walks, fries, and wine, oh lots of wine. Sounds boring? Maybe. Peaceful? Very. For the first time in my life, I can think straight without being overwhelmed with intense emotions. And you know what, it’s not so bad being bored. It’s given me more time to read and write, more time to think about hitting the gym (and possibly even hitting the gym, I hope). As a result of my new boring life, I’m actually happier. So to those of you who share a similar fear of being bored, I urge you guys to try the ‘boring’ thing for a bit. I promise it’s going to be a refreshing change 🙂
P.S. if you REALLY want to be entertained, have a look at these Guys with fries
Amazing but very true. We do search for excitement, adventure and fulfillment in the midst of this fallen world. Routines becomes ruts and boring. How to find all these excitement and …. without having to pay the price of these negative emotions is what we seek.
My mouth watered when you talked about fries in your intro. I do love fries too! You have such a great blog! 😀
Thanks for the kind words and for dropping by 🙂
We share the same issue, it’s scary really. But for fries, try Seasoning Salt. There’s a shop around here that does fries with seasoning salt and its the little bit extra I wanted.
I wish you the best of luck!
And I want some fries damnit.
Seasoning salt huh, that’s a good idea, thanks! Wonder if it works for men too… Hehe 🙂 thanks for dropping by
“I guess some of us are always looking for some kind of stimulation.”
MMMMHHHHMMMM. This is my life too. For some reason I’m subconsciously attracted to villains and lunatics 99% of the time. I managed to chill it out with that and now that I don’t have any disasters in my life I can actually get things done! I love your blog! I am excited to read it all because you seem super smart and french fries are the most delicious thing in the world!
I’m relieved I’m not the only one !! Thank you for your kind words but No I am Farr from smart.. Just been through many silly and funny things worth starting a blog about.. Haha… And yes fries rule! Thanks for reading and taking the time to leave a comment 🙂
Boring is good! I’m sailing in the boring boat too and its really not that bad. I wonder how long it’ll last but it’s been 6 months of boring already so I’m not worried at all 🙂
Really like your blog by the way, look forward to more!
Yay I am thrilled to have some company here in boringville haha 🙂 thanks for the kind words and really appreciate the like 🙂
You found my new post very quick. Glad you liked it. I must say that I have tried the boring life for two years now it is fun…. but let’s just say now…. I’m bored of it. I find that I write more when my heart is in its ups and downs of falling so easily for the girls. My friends that I go to talk to about my relationships they tell me that I am a hopeless romantic. Is that so wrong?
I’m the same way with my writings actually… I get inspired by the drama in my life.. And no there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a hopeless romantic… Keep being the way you are and someone’s gonna fall in love with exactly that 🙂 thanks for the comment and for dropping by!
Good writing. when intense emotions finally mean nothing we start thinking straight. very much right. Following you..:-)
🙂 thank you for the kind words and for commenting on the post 🙂
I get you, I was a drama queen of note, I loved the excitement drama brought me but emotionally I was a wreck! Only when I ‘settled’ down did I realise what I had been missing- happiness
Hmmm.. Maybe we think our lives should be more like the books we read…? Just a thought 🙂
True that, too bad life isn’t a good book. At least we aren’t in denial about it though!
Like others, I thought that relationships were supposed to be dramatic, emotional roller coasters. Like Ricari, it wasn’t until I settled down for a ‘simpler’ life with my man that I realized I had been missing true happiness…in a healthy and loving relationship.
Sometimes some single time is the best thing. Things (or people) happen when you least expect it!
P.S. Thanks for liking my post today, I’m glad you enjoyed it! You have a wonderful blog, keep writing!
You are so right 🙂 thanks for taking the time to read and leave a comment 🙂
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Guys with fries is not something that should be looked at in a public Starbucks.
Oops that’s right.. I made the same mistake… Sorry should have left a warning or something.. Hehhe 🙂