“As time passes by certain things change. It’s like watching myself from a distance and seeing my own mistakes. Outgrowing someone can be painful yet bring a certain freedom that creates renewed life. It is hard to look at a person that you once believed in so much and see them in a totally different light. Love is definitely blind, Love, what does that word truly mean anyway? Love is hurt, love is laughter, love is learning but most of all love is part of life. I sit in my room, sealed in my little comfort bubble where I mostly stay and I wonder why I feel so all alone. “
This is an excerpt from a blog I came across today about domestic violence. The contents touched me deeply and I want to share this blog with the world, because I know there are so many women out there who are going through the exact same thing.
So, my 2nd blog award goes to Domestic Violence Pain. Thank you for the courage in sharing your stories for all of us to learn from.
If you’re someone in this position, I hope you realize you’re not alone, and that you are loved and deserve greater things in life.
(P.S. In case you’re wondering, here’s my 1st blog award)
Lots of Love and Fries,
Queen of the Fries
A conversation with my sis (basically a much smarter & younger version of me – not to mention with better fashion sense and hair)
Warning: this conversation may be offensive for those who like salapao (Chinese hot buns)
Me: Do you believe that in life, there’s always going to be that one person we’ll never get over?
Sis: Of course, but it’s not a bad thing
Me: And what are we meant to do about it?
Sis: Well, different people react differently. Some find ways to be with that person. Others just leave it alone. Some things aren’t meant to happen, you know. It’s like a fantasy in your head, which can be good sometimes. It motivates you.
Me: But what if that fantasy can become a reality? Even for a short time. Would you not want to try? Would you not wonder what it would be like?
Sis: If you know that once the short time is over, you’ll end up in the same place, then why start it?
Me: Because right now it feels like a dream that’s coming true. I want to grab it and have it for a while. Even if it’s going to slip away again.
Sis: Then grab it, if that’s what you want. Just don’t expect anything, you know, so you won’t get hurt.
Me: Hurt is just a feeling though, isn’t it? I mean, what’s the worst that can happen? I will cry and listen to some sad songs. Nothing that hasn’t been done before, right?
Sis: Yeah, but is it worth it?
Me: I don’t know. But if this time it doesn’t hurt me, the next time will anyway right? What’s the difference? Why not just be happy while we can and live in the moment. Otherwise it’s like you’re saying “I’m not gonna eat fries, because it will finish”? Does that mean you won’t even get to enjoy eating?
Sis: This is going on your blog isn’t it
Me: LOL, I’m thinking about it
Sis: Well, you can see it that way too. But, no, it’s more like, do you think fries are worth being fat for?
Sis: And I’m guessing you do. But what about salapao? I don’t think salapao is worth being fat for, do you?
Me: Yeah, why would I even eat salapao?!!
Sis: Exactly. So it depends if he’s a salapao or fries.
Me: (Stunned by her witty statement)
Sis: And you’re making me hungry, I should order some fries.
Me: Yeah, please get inspired and think about what I should write for my blog.
Sis: You do the thinking, I’ll do the eating 😉
The chat with my sister actually helped me answer the question I’ve had for a while – whether it’s worth starting something that potentially will lead nowhere and get me hurt in the end. And as she very cleverly puts it: ‘it depends if he’s a salapao or fries’.
I don’t have an answer yet. But while I figure it out, I’m keen to know what you guys got from the conversation with my sister 🙂