A conversation with my sis (basically a much smarter & younger version of me – not to mention with better fashion sense and hair)
Warning: this conversation may be offensive for those who like salapao (Chinese hot buns)
Me: Do you believe that in life, there’s always going to be that one person we’ll never get over?
Sis: Of course, but it’s not a bad thing
Me: And what are we meant to do about it?
Sis: Well, different people react differently. Some find ways to be with that person. Others just leave it alone. Some things aren’t meant to happen, you know. It’s like a fantasy in your head, which can be good sometimes. It motivates you.
Me: But what if that fantasy can become a reality? Even for a short time. Would you not want to try? Would you not wonder what it would be like?
Sis: If you know that once the short time is over, you’ll end up in the same place, then why start it?
Me: Because right now it feels like a dream that’s coming true. I want to grab it and have it for a while. Even if it’s going to slip away again.
Sis: Then grab it, if that’s what you want. Just don’t expect anything, you know, so you won’t get hurt.
Me: Hurt is just a feeling though, isn’t it? I mean, what’s the worst that can happen? I will cry and listen to some sad songs. Nothing that hasn’t been done before, right?
Sis: Yeah, but is it worth it?
Me: I don’t know. But if this time it doesn’t hurt me, the next time will anyway right? What’s the difference? Why not just be happy while we can and live in the moment. Otherwise it’s like you’re saying “I’m not gonna eat fries, because it will finish”? Does that mean you won’t even get to enjoy eating?
Sis: This is going on your blog isn’t it
Me: LOL, I’m thinking about it
Sis: Well, you can see it that way too. But, no, it’s more like, do you think fries are worth being fat for?
Me: Hmmm
Sis: And I’m guessing you do. But what about salapao? I don’t think salapao is worth being fat for, do you?
Me: Yeah, why would I even eat salapao?!!
Sis: Exactly. So it depends if he’s a salapao or fries.
Me: (Stunned by her witty statement)
Sis: And you’re making me hungry, I should order some fries.
Me: Yeah, please get inspired and think about what I should write for my blog.
Sis: You do the thinking, I’ll do the eating 😉
The chat with my sister actually helped me answer the question I’ve had for a while – whether it’s worth starting something that potentially will lead nowhere and get me hurt in the end. And as she very cleverly puts it: ‘it depends if he’s a salapao or fries’.
I don’t have an answer yet. But while I figure it out, I’m keen to know what you guys got from the conversation with my sister 🙂
Of Fries And Men 
Brilliant)
Thank you 🙂
Toooooo funny. Dealing with this right NOW! I’m right in the middle of it so I can’t tell you if it’s worth it or not yet. It likely won’t end the way I want it to, but who knows. I must have thought it was worth the risk though, so I would say go for it. So far he’s better than Fries but I might be calling him Salapao in a week. LOL 😉
Hahah that’s also a very good point – maybe some salapao are disguised as fries?? Or maybe we are so blind that we see them as fries? Either way i think like you say, there’s a reason we thought they were worth the risk.. now let’s see what happens in the end!
I’m right there with ya. Been there a million times, and always decided he was fries, thus worth being fat for. But these days I’m leaning towards him being salapao
At least you have some kind of answer… but I guess the question is what are you going to do about it.., which is the toughest part I think!
Ahhh! This is me right now! Or actually me for the past year. I’m not sure if he’s fries or salapeo. Never thought about it, but you’ve given me a sense of clarity. I also want fries now… I won medium fries from McDonald’s monopoly…. Guess I’ll use that.
I can completely relate and thanks to my sis, i’ve gotten a sense of clarity too! And wait, you won medium fries from McDonald’s? that’s super cool !!
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Is it worth it? We don’t know until we try, but we need to choose wisely who’s worth trying for. Great blog post.
Thank you for the re-blog 🙂
BRAVO! I loved this & the analogy.
Thank you so much 🙂
fabulous! sometimes the best advice comes in forms of analogies that are relatable to our lives… in this case fries. 🙂 very clever.
I totally agree.. and I hope you like analogies about fries coz there’s much more where that came from 🙂
lol im not a huge fries person BUT i am interested to see what is coming 🙂
Also going through the same thing myself. I guess the real question is does he think you are salapao or fries? Or if he even likes either of those options. You can be regarding him one way and you’re just another item to choose from off the dollar menu to him. So….I think too many movies mess us ladies up. We eagerly await a fairy tale ending that sadly will never come with some of these men.
All this talk of food though is making me hungry.
Great post. And your sis is awesome!!
That’s a really good point – whether he thinks i am salapao or fries – of course there’s the fairy tale version that I hope for, like you say, and in that version I am hoping I am fries to him. Thanks for your thoughts and yes I have to agree my sis is pretty awesome 😉
Yes, this, totally this. Time to go think about some things. Thank you, this was amazing.
I’m glad you found this post helpful to your journey and I hope you are able to figure it out 🙂
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This is something I had to go through to get my current man. I had to choose to turn from the “salapao” and give the chance to someone more deserving of it.
I completely understand what you mean, and I feel like its a constant battle we face.. Salapao vs fries. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for the reblog!
I think I got myself a pickled onion. And who the hell eats pickled onions for 5 years ???
Hhahaha your comment made me laugh out loud 😀 Nah I’m sure it started off as fries.. and maybe transformed itself into pickled onion?? hehhee (how does pickled onion even taste??)
Like total shit, I’ve had it! Mine started as fries too! Do you know how many rotten things I’ve seen fries rot into? You need to eat them while they’re hot and crispy. 😉
That’s a good thought starter for next post.. how to keep fries hot n crispy 😉
Like vinegar x it’s ok when it’s on a frie but you’d soon get sick of it on its own ! Ha x they are actually quite nice once in a while but it’s definatley not a stable diet when consumed daily x
I really enjoyed reading this! A question we all come across 🙂
Thank you so much .. I hope we find an answer to our question soon 🙂