Rule #1 here
2) Don’t ask, don’t tell
When you’re in a committed relationship, you’re allowed to ask the other person every detail about their life: their whereabouts, how they spent their day, what they had for lunch, and whether or not they are constipated.
But in a casual relationship, it’s best to adopt the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy. Allow me to paint a picture for you..
You: So, how many girls are you seeing besides from me?
Scenario 1 : He tells you the number of girls he’s seeing. You feel bad.
Scenario 2 : He tells you he’s not seeing anyone else. You find out he’s lying. You feel bad.
Scenario 3 : He refuses to answer the question & makes you feel embarrassed for asking. You feel bad.
You: Are you on Facebook?
Scenario 1 : He says yes, adds you, and you see a whole bunch of things you don’t want to see on his FB wall. You feel bad.
Scenario 2 : He says no. You snoop and find out he’s lying. You feel bad.
Scenario 3 : He says yes but refuses to add you on FB. You feel bad.
You see, no matter what the answer is, you will end up feeling bad about yourself. So, why even bother to ask?
The point of being in a casual relationship is that you keep things light and fun.
Asking him a million questions about where he’s been, who he was with, why he didn’t return your call, and so on and so forth, is the opposite of what a casual relationship is.
Similarly, you don’t need to tell him every detail about your personal life.
Just imagine yourself enjoying delicious golden fries..picking them up one by one.. devouring them…licking the salt off your fingers..
Now imagine being interrupted by some know-it-all who informs you the calories, fat content, and sodium levels of fries you’re enjoying.
How would it make you feel?
If you have a sudden urge to slap that person, then you’ll understand the point I’m trying to make here: No guy wants to know about your past or present dating escapades. Especially not when you’re in a casual relationship. You’re in this thing because you enjoy each other’s company. Just leave it at that.
The way I see it, there’s only one question worth asking in a casual relationship : ‘Are you being safe?’
P.S. Because I’m so nice, I’ve decided to help you guys out by putting together a list of questions you can ask in a casual relationship:
1) Who would win in a fight – Chuck Norris or Batman?
2) Do dolphins sleep?
3) What does the fox say?
Rule #3 here
Rule #4 here
Rule #5 here
LOL that what does the fox say must be a really important question because I just keep hearing about it. A friend also forced to me to watch the video. I’m sure that question can bring up some seriously interesting conversation that’s totally casual. 🙂
Yes it’s important to understand what the fox says 🙂 It’s a cute song isn’t it? Oh and thanks checking back in, even though you’re not into casual dating hehe
you’re brilliant, lol. but you also forgot question 4, Hugh Grant or Jean Claude Van Damme? any guy who answers Hugh is definitely not cut out for the casual relationship, so you might as well cover that one right up front.
Thank you for the kind words.. and yes, that’s a very important question heheh.. my personal answer is Hugh Grant though 😛
It really depends on how much you like the guy. I used to be in this kind of a relationship and I knew he saw other 3 besides me and gave him advice on his relationships and he was stunned because I did not care at all.
For me knowing is better. Makes you remember where you stand or what attitude you should have regarding the subject/relationship.
My opinion is truth is better. Makes you hurt for a moment or two, but afterwards it heals nicely.
I get what you mean.. and in a relationship, I would definitely have it no other way.. But if I’m dating casually I’d rather not know, so I can only focus on the fun part. You make a good point though and I’d have to agree it does help to remember where you should stand in a relationship. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!!
Well, I was talking about a casual relationship here 🙂 (dating casually if you want to put it like that). I never agree on any other terms either then exclusive to each other, in a serious relationship.
You are so right!!!
Either way you end up feeling bad…lol