Rule #1 here

2) Don’t ask, don’t tell 

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When you’re in a committed relationship, you’re allowed to ask the other person every detail about their life: their whereabouts, how they spent their day, what they had for lunch, and whether or not they are constipated.

But in a casual relationship, it’s best to adopt the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy. Allow me to paint a picture for you..

Exhibit A

You: So, how many girls are you seeing besides from me?

Scenario 1 : He tells you the number of girls he’s seeing. You feel bad. 

Scenario 2 : He tells you he’s not seeing anyone else. You find out he’s lying. You feel bad.  

Scenario 3 : He refuses to answer the question & makes you feel embarrassed for asking. You feel bad. 

Exhibit B

You: Are you on Facebook? 

Scenario 1 : He says yes, adds you, and you see a whole bunch of things you don’t want to see on his FB wall. You feel bad. 

Scenario 2 : He says no. You snoop and find out he’s lying. You feel bad.  

Scenario 3 : He says yes but refuses to add you on FB. You feel bad. 

You see, no matter what the answer is, you will end up feeling bad about yourself. So, why even bother to ask?

The point of being in a casual relationship is that you keep things light and fun.

Asking him a million questions about where he’s been, who he was with, why he didn’t return your call, and so on and so forth, is the opposite of what a casual relationship is.

Similarly, you don’t need to tell him every detail about your personal life.

Just imagine yourself enjoying delicious golden fries..picking them up one by one.. devouring them…licking the salt off your fingers..

Now imagine being interrupted by some know-it-all who informs you the calories, fat content, and sodium levels of fries you’re enjoying.

How would it make you feel?

If you have a sudden urge to slap that person, then you’ll understand the point I’m trying to make here: No guy wants to know about your past or present dating escapades.  Especially not when you’re in a casual relationship. You’re in this thing because you enjoy each other’s company. Just leave it at that.

The way I see it, there’s only one question worth asking in a casual relationship : ‘Are you being safe?’

P.S. Because I’m so nice, I’ve decided to help you guys out by putting together a list of questions you can ask in a casual relationship:

1) Who would win in a fight – Chuck Norris or Batman?

2) Do dolphins sleep?

3) What does the fox say?

Rule #3 here

Rule #4 here

Rule #5 here

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