Rule# 1 here
Rule# 2 here
Rule #3 here
Some of my friends were quite surprised to see me writing about casual relationships.
Why? Because, truth be told, I suck at it. My feelings always get in the way somehow, and I never seem to be able to keep things casual.
Which is ironic because here I am writing these so-called rules of casual dating.
Looking back, I guess these are rules I wish I had followed, so that I could have at least kept my sanity and dignity.
So if you’re like me and you suck at casual relationships, then chances are you will find it very hard to apply these ‘rules’. But if you were to take away just a tiny glimpse of everything I’ve said, I want it to be this :
4) Don’t Lose Yourself
Just because you indulged in a few fries doesn’t mean you have to label yourself a “Fry-eater” and forget about all the other food you like.
Similarly, being in a casual relationship shouldn’t take you away from doing things you like. It shouldn’t mean you start blowing off plans or giving up your me-time so you can spend more time with this guy.
Remember what happiness means for you outside of your relationship with this guy. In other words, don’t lose yourself. There are plenty of fries and men in the world, but there’s only one of you – never forget that.
Rule #5 here
I kind of wish more people would remember this even in regular relationships. I think that’s part of why relationships burn out or people become resentful of their significant other. They begin to feel like there’s no space or there’s nothing left. Share a life don’t become each other’s life… that’s what I say. 🙂 These rules may be for casual dating but seems to me they could apply to any kind of dating, but maybe that’s just me. I hope my thoughts on this aren’t ruining your goal lol. I’d feel bad. I just happen to agree with the wisdom behind these.
No, you’re absolutely right on that one – the rules don’t apply to just casual dating. In fact I was going to make that exact point, but just thought I’d wait until after I post the 5th rule 🙂
LOL oh sorry… didn’t mean to be the needle to your balloon. It was just something that came to me. I do really think your rules are definitely good to remember though. 🙂
and I love your wisdom here “Share a life don’t become each other’s life…” as always, thank you for taking the time to read and share, really means a lot to me 🙂
I think casual relationships are difficult because relationships whether they be friendships, love, work, whatever the case, are not casual in nature. I mean do you have a casual best friend? No you have acquaintances, you know exactly what to expect from these people. But casual relationships blur the line. It becomes difficult to distinguish what you can and can not ask of the person.
You’re absolutely right on that one. Sometimes I wonder if we term it ‘casual’ because we don’t know what to expect from it. So we say it’s ‘casual’ to avoid asking ourselves the hard questions like “why are you even in this.” Thanks for bringing that up though – it’s a really good point and I hope you don’t mind me mentioning it in one of my next posts 🙂
Not a problem at all! Good luck with your next post! 🙂
Hi I did borrow your question afterall.. check it out 🙂 https://offriesandmen.com/2013/11/19/the-queens-5-rules-of-casual-dating-5-of-5/