A friend was curious to know why I stopped seeing a guy after such a short time. Here’s how our conversation went:
‘So you stopped seeing him after just two dates’
‘Because you just weren’t ‘feeling it’?’
‘But you must have felt something right? Otherwise why did you agree to go on a second date?’
‘That second date was just to make sure I really wasn’t feeling it. And well, I didn’t feel it ‘
‘So that’s it? You’re not even gonna give this guy another chance?’
‘Ermm.. Why would I do that?
‘Because… It takes time for feelings to develop. Maybe you haven’t given it enough time?’
I’ve actually had a number of these conversations with different people in my life. Each of them wondering why I was so ‘quick’ to make up my mind.
So, to all my dear friends who have been asking me the same questions, let me respond by bringing you into my world of fries (and men), and ask you this: If I happen to be eating fries which don’t taste good, what would you suggest I do?
In the past, I would say to myself ‘maybe it was one bad fry. Maybe the other fries in the basket are delicious’
And so I would have a second, third, fourth, fifth fry, hoping that it was just a few bad fries and that the rest would taste better. But every piece of fry tasted the same – if not worse.
You think I would have given up and left the fries alone, huh?
Nope, the optimist in me tried to make it taste better by adding salt, ketchup, mayonnaise, you name it.
But nothing helped. And by the time I realized it, I had already finished the fries and was feeling fat and disgusted at myself.
Finally, there came a point where I learned to accept that some fries just don’t taste good. And the best thing you can do is save yourself the trouble of trying to make it taste better, and.. simply don’t eat it. I mean, why waste calories on fries that don’t taste good?
haha! I love the metaphor! 😀
Thank you ! 🙂
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LOL I still thoroughly enjoy your comparison of men to fries. In this case, it really works excellently! For me personally, I’d think at least a third try couldn’t hurt. Some people might take up to the third one to really warm up, but if by the end of the third date, it’s still not going anywhere for you then yes pull the plug. I agree that you shouldn’t force the issue because that’s not how feelings develop. There is something to be said for listening to your gut. That sixth sense is there for a reason; the problem is we tend to ignore it when we need to – at least I have haha. I also say it’s worth being single a long time if it means finally meeting the right fry. Eating a fry just to eat it isn’t worth it. Settling never got anyone anywhere. This goes for fries as well as men. 🙂
I’ve been looking forward to your comments 🙂 For me it varies between 1-3 dates depending on how much I enjoy the person’s company (despite lack of connection).. and well the sixth sense part.. i think i’ve conveniently turned off that switch at times 🙂 And yup.. better to be single than eat bad fries!
Well that’s really nice of you to say. 🙂 And yes, there have been times I’ve switched it off too lol that’s been part of the problem. Yeah, singlehood is my long time friend and will be for a while longer lol. 🙂 it’s okay. I’m good with it.
Life is too precious to be spent eating bad fries, or spending time with men who don’t “do it” for you. 🙂
Very well summed up 🙂
Love it. Love it. Love it. I’ve been eating bad tasting fries for two months. Gotta stop tonight.
well.. can’t be that bad if you’re still eating it right 😉
My friends do the exact same to me.
“why didn’t you give him a chance?”
Always… They are now surprised when I actually go on more than 2 dates with someone!
Haha I’m glad someone else relates to this.. and I’m sure your friends enjoy the stories from all your adventures 🙂
I completely agree with you…if you’re not ‘feeling’ it, then why continue to see someone? I feel like it’s better to be completely honest. I know from my own experience that I’m pretty intuitive about things…if I’m not feeling it, it’s not likely I’m going to feel it in two, three, or even four dates. It has nothing to do with the person and everything to do with me knowing what I need and want out of someone and compatibility….life is too short to spend it eating ‘bad fries’ as you put it….
Keep on keepin’ on…
I connected so well to this!….. I’ve wasted a lot of time eating stale fries.