Ladies, I’m sure a lot of you know this feeling too well.
It’s that feeling you get the day after you’ve given a guy your number, and he still hasn’t texted!
A million questions are running through my mind right now. Questions like..
We did have a connection there… didn’t we? Did I imagine it?
He did say ‘I will message you’. Maybe he just hasn’t gotten around to it?
Did I appear too desperate and turned him off?
And finally.. the most important question of all: Is he dead?
Ok but seriously, the last time I waited around for a guy to text me, I was probably in high school. I honestly thought I had evolved pass all of that. That throughout the years, I had built up enough confidence and self worth not to let myself dwell over a guy I’d only met once!
It bothered me so much that I brought it up during lunch with my gal pals – who (bless their hearts) demanded and dissected every detail of how the night went and who said what to whom. This involved a lot of ‘Oh! He said that?’ and ‘Ow! You responded with that?’.
And of course, conflicting advice from each one:
Me: So, should I text him first?
Gal pal #1: Well, it beats sitting on your ass and checking your phone every two minutes right?
Gal pal #2: Oh-my-gawd you should NEVER text a guy first.
Gal pal #3: Yeah don’t text him first. Get your mutual friend to drop him a hint!
Gal pal #1: Ok just do the 3-day-rule thing and casually drop him a text on Wednesday.
Me: And if he texts me before that?
Gal pal #2: Then you need to wait 4 hours before you can respond to him. I swear, that’s what the rule book says. And trust me, you don’t wanna go against the rules! I’ll bring you the rule book!
After some fries and girl-talk, I was still left with questions. Do I text him, do I not text him? What is this rule book and do I really need to follow it?
But the question that bothered me most was: ‘Am I just not interesting enough?’
It bothered me because it brought me back to that insecure & shy girl I used to be.
The girl who obsessed over every detail of what was said and done, trying to figure out how it could have been different.
The girl who doubted herself and didn’t think any guy would be interested.
But I’m not that girl anymore, and I should know better by now, right?
The answer is yes! (Forced enthusiasm)
So what am I going to do differently?
Well, for starters, I need to stop obsessing *checks phone for the 1000th time*
And, I need to take back control.