If you love fries the way I do, you’ll understand that when looking through a menu and choosing what to order, there is a 98.2 percent chance that I would choose the meal that comes with fries. Never mind if the main dish doesn’t sound very appealing – if it comes with fries, I’ll take it!
This time was no different – I looked through the menu and ordered something that came with fries.
But when my order arrived, I was absolutely horrified to see that there were no fries! Not a single one. I demanded for my fries, but the waiter informed me they had changed the menu and that meal no longer comes with fries.
I was disappointed because I was really looking forward to the fries. In fact, I was more excited about the fries than I was about the rest of the meal.
Yet here I was, stuck having a meal without fries.
It’s not a pleasant feeling, and I went through the same feeling again recently with my so-called casual arrangement.
‘But didn’t you say you wanted casual?’, my friends asked when I complained about how the whole thing was.. ermm.. ‘too casual’.
I couldn’t answer that question. Sure, when that really cute guy with a really nice body told me he wasn’t looking for something serious – my response to him was “Cool! Neither am I”. And I meant it at the time. I actually thought that’s what I wanted – a non-serious arrangement with a really hot guy.
But as it turns out, when I finally got what I ordered, I realized it wasn’t what I wanted at all. All I really wanted was fries!
So why didn’t I just order fries in the first place?
I guess I was embarrassed.
I was embarrassed to admit that I wanted fries as a main meal.
And, let’s be honest here: I was embarrassed to be that girl who wants a relationship instead of a casual arrangement.
That shouldn’t be anything to be embarrassed about. *hugs*
Aww thank you 🙂 *hugs*
At it’s core, the only way for a relationship to exist is for one or both parties to give. “Casual” is basically a euphemism for “I don’t want to have to give you much”. And who, truthfully, is ok with a long term arrangement of giving without having much given back ?
I’m in it for the fries, too. Nothing wrong with that. 🙂
Love how you put it. Let’s all be ‘in it for the fries’ 🙂
This is brilliant! And oh so true (both about fries and men).
Thank youuu 🙂
This is so clever and self-disclosing. Nice post.
Thank you 🙂
THIS. IS. THE. STORY. OF. MY. LIFE.
Fries, Men and everything in between.
Gah.
This was WONDERFUL 😀
Hehe.. Am glad I’m not the only one 🙂
Casual arrangements are always always always easier said than done. Somebody always wants more … or sometimes less. I’ll letcha know if I ever figure out how to do it.
Yes please keep me on your speed dial list for when you do figure it out!!
There are many well stated comments here. I don’t think I could really add to them. I’ll just say that I totally agree. As always – I love the metaphor. I agree…don’t give up on what it is you know you want. Otherwise it’s just settling and that’s no good. you really should get what you pay for. 🙂
As always, you say it best 🙂 ❤