You wanna know something funny? Ever since I started this blog nearly 3 years ago, my life has been revolving around fries and men.
Why?
Well, because I figured now that I have a blog about fries and men, I need to immerse myself in those things so I can be true to my blog.
At certain times when fries and men didn’t feature much in my life, I would feel like I was doing something wrong. Like I was betraying my blog by not feeding it stories.
I moved to a new city recently though, and decided I want to change my life in a positive way. For starters, I wanted to focus more on me. I realized that by being in and out of flings and relationships, I hadn’t been able to truly focus on the single most important thing in my life – Me! I also decided I would start taking better care of my health and fitness.
In simple terms, I wanted my life to be less revolved around fries and men.
But what about my blog?
I shared this dilemma with a very good friend (also an amazing human being), and he said something really powerful:
“You’re a person with a blog, not a blog with a person”
He was completely right. Here I was, living as though my blog was my life, when the simple truth is that my blog is just what it is: a blog.
And with that realization, I’ve started my journey of living a balanced and healthy life which doesn’t revolve around fries and men.
I still allow myself to have fries from time to time – but it is no longer an addiction or something I crave for. And no, I didn’t become a hermit or a nun. I still go on dates and have my fair share of fun, but I no longer make men the center of my universe.
I am spending more time discovering myself and doing things I love. And you know what, I feel more empowered and happier than I’ve ever been in my life.
And I want to invite all of my readers to try it. Try making your life more about “YOU”, less about fries or men (or whatever else that your life has been revolving around). I promise you’ll see a positive difference π
That’s awesome! I just hope it doesn’t mean we’ll hear less and less from you. I’ve always enjoyed what you had to say and the incredible lessons you pass on. This isn’t to say that this blog should take over, but that you’ll keep us updated on what’s happening. π I’m glad to hear that things are going so well for you and there’s nothing saying you can’t alter this blog to better fit your new and BETTER lifestyle. It’s your blog…like your friend said…you dictate how it works not the other way around. Best wishes and again, super happy to hear things are going so well! π
Awww thank you so much for your encouraging words π and I can’t keep away from my blog especially when I have readers like you who have been so amazing and supportive of my journey π so you’ll definitely hear more from me!! Plus fries and men will always be around.. I’m just not letting it dictate my life anymore like you rightly said π
fantastic. i look forward to this new blog of yours about health and fitnessβΊ
Wow! I feel empowered just by hearing your words. Thank you for sharing your revelation about yourself and the positive journey you are on. I am ready for more posts from Fries and Men!
It took me a good while of blogging before I realized that there were no blog police and no one was going to stop me from writing about whatever the hell my little black heart desires. And that was liberating. π So yes, we need to live our lives and have fun so we can share our tales of fun when we have the time. Keep on rockin’ it Queen. π
Omg you were the first person to give me an award when I started last year.
I recently reopened, and clicked on stats saw your page. Here I am and here are the very words I needed to hear. So much so, I am going to print off when I get back home.
Your words so echo my thoughts particularly recent ones. You know ….. Maybe its like cosmic ordering what we are putting out there to the universe.
Thank you for this post. Was exactly what I needed to read today. So much so am goingback to read again . π
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a heartfelt comment, and I’m really glad that my post has inspired you, in the same way your blog has also inspired me and made me realise I wasn’t alone in dealing with what I was dealing with. I’m grateful for having this community of kindred spirits where we can connect and share our feelings and inspire each other π
Keep writing – it’s good for your soul regardless of what you are writing about. I write because I have an overwhelming urge to divulge. Folks reading my blog is just the garlic ketchup on my handcut fries.
Love the sentiment and comparison π thank you for stopping by π