A year ago, I did a self-development program – Landmark – which completely altered the course of my life and opened up a whole new world for me. From being someone who was unfulfilled and constantly trying to find the ‘next’ thing that would make me happy, I was able to create a happy and fulfilling life I didn’t have to escape from.
A key part of creating a life I love included being totally honest with myself about what I want. And so I had to cough up – to myself and others- that while I kept saying I love being single, deep down I was just scared and I actually did want to be in a relationship.
So, as I mentioned in my last post, I started dating again. This time, it wasn’t just to pass time or have more stories to tell – but to have the kind of relationship I’ve always wanted. For those who have been following my blog, you know that I haven’t had a lot of success in this area. But I’m about to say (type) something very radical: I’m thrilled to report that I finally have a success story to share with you guys!
Let me tell you how it happened.
I’m a huge fan of brunch, and of course fries. The two don’t really seem to go together though, so my alternative for fries that I can justify eating for brunch is hash browns.
There are tons of cafes in my neighbourhood, and in over a year of being in the area, I’ve tried a few cafes, and narrowed down to only 2 cafes that served great brunch. My definition of a ‘perfect brunch’ consists of: scrambled eggs, avocado, grilled tomato, mushrooms, spinach, avocado, and as I said, hash browns.
Neither of these 2 cafes served hash browns though, and I’ve googled cafes in the area which serve hash browns (yes, that’s how desperate I was), and found none to my disappointment. Anyhow, I would alternate between these 2 cafes as there wasn’t one café that had everything I wanted on one plate, let alone have hash browns.
There’s this one café which is also walking distance from my place, and I often walked pass, but never paid attention to. I’ve read a few good reviews about it, but each time I passed by, I got this feeling that it ‘wasn’t my style’. The place just didn’t have the usual ‘vibe’ I look for in a brunch place. So I never thought to give it a try in the one year or so that I’ve lived in the area.
Not long ago, I woke up and went for a walk while deciding where to have brunch between the 2 cafes. I wasn’t too hungry, so I kept walking along and came across this particular café. Instead of walking pass, for some reason that day I stopped in front of the café. They had outdoor seating which I love, and I was surprised I didn’t notice it before. I decided I might as well go in and take a look at the menu. So I walked towards the counter inside the cafe, picked up the menu and there it was:
Everything I wanted – all on one plate! Even the hashbrown! I almost couldn’t contain my excitement as I sat in that lovely café and devoured the best brunch I’ve had in a year.
So that’s how I found my perfect brunch 🙂
I’ve probably left you wondering how on earth this relates to my success in dating, didn’t I? I promise I’ll bridge it for you, but before I do that, I’d like to hear from you guys. What did you see, and what lessons can you take away from my perfect brunch incident?
I’m supposing you’re saying that we should stop overlooking that guy you wouldn’t consider dating cos he may be everything you’ve wanted and more? Haha if I’m taking it literally :p
That’s definitely one of the themes.. check out part ii 🙂
I think you are talking about stepping outside your comfort zone and try something new — even if the new has been under your nose all along.
You’re right on point… do check out part ii!
It’s more about defining what you want versus what you think is your type and finding that somewhere in the middle the two meet. It’s like what the others have said and being a bit more open to recognizing that the “packaging” of the breakfast may not seem like what you want but looking at the ingredients…it’s all there! It’s about second glances, chances and taking a deeper look. You’ll never know what you’ll find. 🙂
Hey there my favourite fangirl 😉 That’s absolutely right, and there’s a few other lessons which I’m going to compile in the next post. In the meantime, part II is up 🙂
Give someone a chance here and there. You never know if you might click, or rather they are going to say something that makes you open your eyes and start a beautiful path to something new or alternate your strategy a bit for the better. That’s what I got from your final decision to try out that one place 🙂